Diane L. Ross,
There is a difference between spending time
alone and spending time with yourself.
It is possible to be alone and never get to
know yourself any better.
There are so many distractions that can be used to fill your time —
TV, the internet, videos, music,
etcetera - that in spite of being by yourself, you need to create the
opportunity to be with yourself.
Being with yourself allows you the opportunity to become aware of
your own thinking.
You can’t be aware of your own thinking if you aren’t
quiet enough to listen.
As you become quiet, you first hear the chatter of the
You hear sounds and noises that are outside of you.
As you become quieter still, you become aware of
your own, internal chatter.
You might become aware of a particular song
playing in your head.
You might become aware of snips of conversations that took place in
the mind’s memory of the past.
You might become aware of conversations that you imagine may take
place in the future.
As you become aware of the activity in your mind,
you begin to know yourself.
You begin to understand what is shaping your life and where your
energies have been invested.
You may learn that you have been spending a lot of your energies on
worry, fear and blame.
As you become aware of your inner life, you get to know yourself in a
whole new way.
Spend time with yourself and discover who you